Interesting...who are you shaving your muff off for, anyway?

[alfreda89]

Warning -- if you are not comfortable talking about sexual things, don't click through. The article is thoughtful, not titillating, but it's a frank subject!

Here's a writer talking about the craze for Brazilian waxing, and how in some countries (Italy, for example) it's rarely done. "They would not know where to go," the Italian women joke. But in fact, Italian men are on the average very romantic. Even their porn is idealization of reality, of a mature, desirable woman. A hairless, prepubescent girl is not a fantasy for them.

I have a lot of reasons that I have no interest in Brazilian waxing, but after reading this article, I find that I may have another reason. I don't want to look like I am ready for action 24/7. I want to look like something and someone special, a private garden I invite only intimate friends into.

This will make sense if you read the article.

Comments

[originalkitsune.livejournal.com]

Pubic hair is coming back into style The Brazilian is getting to be out of style now. Cosmo officially declared it as early as 2010. http://sharpasme.blogspot.com/2010/08/va-trendy.html
not that i give a fart what Cosmo thinks.

The person who wrote the article obviously doesn't have a heavy period, the kind that mats dried blood onto long hairs and pad. This person has never had the joy of ripping the matted hairs off painfully either. Because if they did, they would be a fan of removal or at least grooming the area.
Also the overwhelming stench that goes with the hairs. That goes for men too. A man who man-scapes is so much less stinky,

[alfreda89.livejournal.com]

Yeah, heavy periods make trimming a must. I'm actually in favor of grooming the area. I just don't get the "rip everything out of the most sensitive part of your body" gig.

My ex did not like me shaving -- said he now understood women complaining about beard burn. So I became the fan of trimming. Neater, and less painful!

[sheilagh.livejournal.com]

trimming -> stubble, waxing .. not so much, and lasts weeks. During summer, and especially for camping, the low-sweat factor (evaporation vs sticking to hairs) is keen, and has other hygine impacts.

For decoration, leave the front as seen when standing, but the rest ... can be removed in ways that don't cause stubble, and can be more about your own comfort vs any desire to seem sex-ready.

[alfreda89.livejournal.com]

Now that makes perfect sense. I could see doing that. Although I imagine the thong bikini underwear to get waxed is not fun. I actually have a waxer to do legs. But my hair is so fine, it doesn't catch in the wax half the time! Very annoying.

[greensilkchai.livejournal.com]

have you ever tried a diva cup? they're reusable menstrual cups that catch blood, allowing you to dispose of it a couple times a day instead of dealing with uncomfortable pads and tampons. i do very occasionally have issues with them leaking, so i wear a panty liner along with the diva cup when i'm on my period. but it feels so much better than pads and tampons did, and it's better for the environment, too.

http://www.divacup.com/

[alfreda89.livejournal.com]

A really interesting alternative. I knew about sponges, but had not heard of the cup. Thanks for the info!

[starcat-jewel.livejournal.com]

I would not date someone who wanted me to shave or wax; I'm not interested in fulfilling someone's kid-porn fantasies, TYVM. I also will not buy any bathing suit which requires more than trimming the outside bits short enough to stay covered. Yes, that makes shopping a bit difficult, but no harder really than shopping for jeans that fit.

Other women can do what they like with their bodies; that's part of what feminism is about. These are the lines I draw.

[alfreda89.livejournal.com]

Yup -- that was the point. To be ourselves.

Myself doesn't have a Brazilian wax.

[strigine.livejournal.com]

When I hit puberty in the late 80s, I asked my mother if there was any medical or hygenic reason that I was expected to shave my armpits and legs and my brother was not, even though he was hairier. She thought about it for a bit and said no, it's just a cultural thing. And I said it sounded like sexist BS and I didn't see any reason to participate.

I still don't. :P So I'm sure as hell not letting someone rip out my short 'n' curlies.

[alfreda89.livejournal.com]

Apparently the uber-people now say it's going out of style. How about that? We are the vanguard of the new natural craze, and we never had to change a thing about ourselves! ;^)

[greensilkchai.livejournal.com]

what a wonderfully civil conversation of opposing and complementary views. ahhh...

i'm pro women doing whatever they want to their bodies. i'm most comfortable when i have no pubic hair whatsoever, so i shave it all off. when i get enough money and recommendations for a particular establishment, i'm getting it all lasered off. waxing hurts, and sugaring (quite a lot like waxing) was too expensive and gave me ingrown hairs. shaving is simple, requires little effort, and leaves my skin healthy. i've played around over the years with pubic topiary, and it's not for me. it requires too much effort, and frankly, pubic hair itches. i've talked to a lot of friends who don't have this problem, but there ya go--we're all built a little differently.

but it is all about comfort and personal preference. i don't shave my legs and armpits nearly as often as i do my vulva, because the hair there doesn't bother me until it gets past a certain length.

so in fashion or not, it all comes off.

[alfreda89.livejournal.com]

It's nice, isn't it, that we have a choice now?

As opposed to One Way All The Time?